Why we are here
This is a peer-support and skills community for college students and recent grads. We share scripts, checklists, and kind structure so hard weeks feel lighter. We are not therapy, medical care, legal advice, or crisis response.

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Who may join
Adults eighteen years or older. If you are under eighteen, please do not join.

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If you are in crisis
If you are afraid you might harm yourself or someone else, or you are in immediate danger, please call local emergency services right now. In the United States, call or text nine eight eight for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. You matter. You deserve real-time help.

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Our values (read first)

• Abundance: there is enough time to learn, enough kindness to go around, and enough second chances for you.

• Compassion: speak to yourself and others as you would to someone you love.

• Forgiveness: notice, learn, adjust. We do not drag yesterday across today like a heavy coat.

• Agency: tiny steps count. We celebrate two-minute wins.

• Privacy: what someone shares here is not yours to repeat elsewhere without consent.

• Integrity: no cheating, no impersonation, no “do my work for me.”

 

The three bright lines

1. No cruelty. No insults, slurs, shaming, dog-piling, or mockery.

2. No harm. No threats, self-harm instructions, or content that encourages dangerous acts.

3. No cheating. No sharing of test answers, paid materials you do not own, or planning academic dishonesty.

Break a bright line and a moderator will remove the content and may remove you.

 

What good participation looks like

• Be specific and kind. “I am stuck on emailing my professor about an extension. Here is my draft. What would make it clearer?”

• Ask for consent before deep feedback. “Would you like line-by-line suggestions?”

• Share what helped you. “This one-page budget and a weekly phone timer kept me afloat.”

• Protect privacy. Change names and details in stories. Do not share private messages without permission.

• Assume good intent. Most people are tired, not evil. Lead with curiosity.

• Use content warnings. If talking about heavy topics, start with “content note: grief” and keep details light.

 

What is not allowed (examples, not a full list)

• Harassment, bullying, hate speech, or discriminatory language.

• Sexual content that is graphic or aimed at shock, or sexual messages to other members.

• Doxxing, sharing private information, or posting someone’s content without consent.

• Advice that is dangerous or illegal.

• Spam, scams, or unsolicited sales pitches.

• Uploading pirated textbooks, paywalled articles you do not own, or test banks.

• Using “artificial intelligence” tools to produce work you present as your own when your school forbids it.

• Repeated “do my homework” requests.

 

Academic integrity and “artificial intelligence” use

• You are responsible for following your school’s policy.

• You may discuss how to learn, plan, and study.

• You may share prompts that generate study outlines or practice questions.

• You may not ask for, share, or submit generated work as your own if your school forbids it.

• When in doubt, ask your professor, check your syllabus, and err on the side of honesty.

 

Copy-and-paste note you can use with a professor:
“Hello Professor [Name], I would like to confirm the class policy on using computer tools for studying. Is it acceptable to use them for brainstorming or outlines if I fully rewrite the work in my own words and cite any ideas that shaped the result? Thank you.”

 

Direct messages and boundaries

• Ask before sending a deep or personal message.

• If someone asks you to stop messaging, stop.

• No flirting or romantic approaches in direct messages.

• Do not ask for or send money.

 

If a message crosses a line:
Reply once with, “Please do not contact me again.” Then block and report.

 

Sharing your work, links, or offers

• Helpful resources are welcome if you explain why they helped you.

• Self-promotion or paid offers belong only in the weekly “share your thing” thread (if enabled).

• No affiliate links. No link cloaking. Disclose relationships.

 

Live calls and events

• Be on time.

• Mute if not speaking.

• No recording without consent from all present.

• Do not share screenshots outside the community.

 

Privacy and recording

• Treat the community as confidential by default.

• Do not record calls, download videos, or repost content elsewhere without written permission from the person who shared and from the host.

• We may record official workshops for members who could not attend. We will tell you before recording begins.

 

Moderation process (clear and fair)

• Content edit or removal: we may edit or remove content that breaks a rule or feels unsafe.

• Gentle nudge: a moderator may message you with a kind reminder and a suggestion.

• Yellow card: written warning saved on your account.

• Red card: temporary suspension.

• Ban: removal from the community if harm continues or a bright line is crossed.

 

Appeals:

If you believe a moderation decision was in error, email info@veethefirefly.com within seven days with a short summary and a link to the post. We will review and reply.

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How to report a problem

Use the “Report” button on the post or message, or email info@veethefirefly.com with:

• Link or screenshot

• What happened (short and concrete)

• How you would like us to help

We review reports as quickly as we can. Your privacy will be protected.

 

Health and safety reminder

We are a learning space. We are not therapy or medical care. If heavy topics arrive, we invite support without graphic detail. If you need professional help, please reach out to licensed services in your area. In the United States, call or text nine eight eight.

 

Content ownership

• You own your original posts and files.

• By posting, you grant us a limited license to display your content inside the community and in recordings of live sessions, so the space can function.

• If you later delete a post, it disappears from public view, but backups or quoted portions may remain in archives or replies.

 

Leaving the community

You may leave at any time. If you need help deleting your account or data, email info@veethefirefly.com. Some records must be kept for legal reasons (for example, receipts), but we will delete or anonymize what we can.

 

Vee’s small light standard

Before you post, ask:

• Is it kind?

• Is it clear?

• Is it useful?

• Does it protect privacy?
  If yes, please share. Your light might be the one someone needed tonight.

 

How to ask for help here (pin this)

• What is happening right now? One or two lines.

• What have you tried? Even if it failed.

• What do you want to do next? A tiny step.

• What kind of feedback do you want? Gentle ideas, line edits, or scripts.

Example:
“I need to email a professor about a missed deadline. I froze and said nothing for a week. I wrote a draft but it feels defensive. I want help making it clear and respectful. I can send it tonight.”